“Sometimes you’re the windshield and sometimes you’re the bug.” – Mary Chapin Carpenter Try as we might, there are some things you can’t prepare for or change…life altering events that catch you off guard like a well-aimed snow ball. Everyone’s windshields are different. It would be nice to say that you only get one in life; but on some days they come hourly. Bug days. I would also like to report that I handle these moments with transcendent grace and aplomb, displaying a Zen-like acceptance of my new windshield circumstances. That has not been my experience. My first reaction is usually denial, followed closely with a desire to flee. After several moments of internal negotiation, I…